Brenda Ray

Brenda Ellen Ray (Rogers)

Friday, October 18th, 1946 - Wednesday, September 30th, 2020
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Brenda Ellen Ray, 73, passed away on Wednesday, September 30, 2020. She was born in Brooklyn, NY to the late Garland and Ruth Newell Rogers. Besides her parents, she was also predeceased by her husband, Thomas A. Ray (The original animator of the Tom and Jerry cartoons). Brenda was involved in social activism in New York in the 60’s and 70’s remaining continually active in Politics. She was a member of the Writer’s Guild and the owner and operator of Tomstone’s Animation and Art Gallery, and Tomstone’s Restaurant with her late husband. Brenda was also an accomplished saleswoman, where she was a top salesperson 3 years in a row at Albertson Oldsmobile and earned her vehicle by exceptional sales with Mary Kay Cosmetics. She loved life, dancing and most importantly, her son.
Left to cherish her memory is her only son, Ariel M. Martin. “I will never know why God put me with my mother, bless me with my mother, but he did for some reason. He allowed her to be strong enough, intelligent enough and stubborn enough to raise a boy like me to become a man. True, there might have been people they came in and out of her life that were Men... but once she married they were really insignificant; that's why my heart is broken. All I've known in the manifestation of unconditional love which was my mom Brenda Ray. She was classy she was proud, she loved and she lived.”
In addition to her son, she leaves behind two brothers, Dennis Rogers , Leonard Rogers; numerous nieces, nephews, extended family members and dear friends.
A memorial service to celebrate her life will be live webcast via on Tuesday, October 13, 2020 at 5pm. Please take the time to sign the digital guest book and share a memory or story of Brenda.
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    Tuesday, October 13th, 2020 | 5:00pm
    Tuesday, October 13th, 2020 5:00pm
    Graham Funeral Home
    1112 Kempsville Road
    Chesapeake, VA 23320
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    Pastor Tracy Gregory


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Kenneth Parham

Posted at 07:40pm
Although I only met you once, I will always cherish the conversation that we had..... “When a person becomes a memory, the memory becomes a treasure.” Till we meet again... Kenneth Parham

William Araiza

Posted at 06:10pm
Our time spent with Brenda was in the gallery or restaurant, each visit always began with a large smile and a hug. Brenda was a beautiful soul and though our time knowing her was short, she had a positive impact on our lives. Catch you in heaven Sis.
The Araiza family

Mary Anna White

Posted at 06:03pm
I am so sorry for your loss. Brenda had such a big heart. She always wanted things to be better for others. We were Bernie friends together and went on adventures to NC to canvass and to Philadelphia to the DNC. She worked so passionately to make things better. She talked about her family. I know that she loved you very much and was so proud of you. Best of luck in everything. You are really right that it is so important to express your love. May God give you support in this tough time and help you to grow in love, even in this time of loss. God bless you. Mary Anna White

Robert parham

Posted at 10:47am

Deborah Kennedy

Posted at 12:53am
To Ariel Martin & Family,
Our heartfelt love and condolences are extended to you as you mourn the passing of your beautiful Mom, Brenda.
After having walked this same journey some years ago, take comfort knowing that the Lord is with you, as you will know.
He will give you peace and comfort, though your Mom is no longer physically here.
Just know her love for you, you'll always hold dear.
As you walk through the streets and come around the bend,
Her love for you will never end.
You will feel her when you see the stars in the sky, even if it sometimes causes you to cry.
She raised you to be the amazing man that you are.
Imagine the feel of her embrace, although is now very far.
She was your first friend and your first love.
Now she is resting in peace with the Lord God above.
Each night as you prepare to fall asleep, be at peace knowing that her love for you, will always run deep.

With love and sympathies,
Deborah Kennedy & Family

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