Brenda Onley

Brenda Carol Onley

Sunday, September 14th, 1952 - Tuesday, September 3rd, 2019
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Brenda Carol Onley passed away from a long battle of ovarian cancer on Tuesday, September 3, 2019. She was predeceased by her father, Lloyd Onley and brother, Eddie Onley. Left to cherish her memory is her best friend and life friend Joyce; her mother, Ella Wright; closest and dearest friends, Linda, Johnette, Donna and Holly; her softball coach and very dear friend, Marilyn Burgess; The Brenda and Dennis Baker family as well as numerous friends she considered her extended family. Last but not least her two cherished dogs, Coco and Chloe.

Brenda was a proud owner and employee of Kempsville Building Materials for over 39 years. She was passionate about the Washington Redskins, playing softball and playing golf with friends. Brenda was an accomplished softball player and was inducted into the Tidewater Virginia Amateur Softball Association and the United States Specialty Sports Association Hall of Fame. During her years playing softball, she played for the Travelers from 1972 to 1988. Brenda also loved playing golf even taking her clubs with her on vacations. Her favorite round of golf would include Joyce, Whit and Deb.
She will always be remembered for her endless kindness, wonderful sense of humor and her extreme generosity.

A memorial celebration of her life will be held at 3 p.m. on Sunday, September 15, 2019 at Graham Funeral Home, 1112 Kempsville Road, Chesapeake. In lieu of flowers her family is requesting donations be made to St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital, P O Box 50, Memphis, TN 38101 or Please visit to view the service and leave a condolence to the family.
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    Sunday, September 15th, 2019 | 3:00pm
    Sunday, September 15th, 2019 3:00pm
    Graham Funeral Home
    1112 Kempsville Road
    Chesapeake, VA 23320
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    Graham Funeral Home
    1112 Kempsville Road
    CHESAPEAKE, VA 23320
    Get Directions: View Map | Text | Email


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Marilyn Murphy

Posted at 02:06pm
It hurts my heart to see that Brenda has passed. I remember WELL as a softball player for the Travelers. Always friendly, a laugh, a smile.... Blessings on Brenda, her family and softball community. M. Murphy.

Lyle Edwards

Posted at 12:12pm
My condolences to Brenda’s family & friends.I got to know Brenda while working with her dad & brother at Tidewater Supply Co.Later we had some business dealings at Kempsville Building.She was always very pleasant & kind.Enjoyed her competitive spirit playing softball.May she Rest In Peace
Lyle Edwards

Brenda Sharpe

Posted at 10:52pm
Our deepest sympathies to the family of Brenda. My mom saw her picture and called to let me know. If you were on a softball team 30 years ago in Virginia, you knew the name Travelers, and "Big O". We have to smile when we think of those Good Ol' Days. "Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted." Brenda Sharpe & Mary Waterfield, Virginia Beach

Diane Sumerlin

Posted at 05:39pm
To the friends and family of Brenda,

Brenda was in my graduating class, First Colonial Class of 1970. I didn't know Brenda well, but my memory of her was that she was a very sweet. kind person. Just wanted to share that with you. I hope we will have our 50th class reunion next year and she will not be forgotten. Warm regards, Diane Ervin Sumerlin

Posted at 11:25am
I remember many rounds of golf with Brenda and one of my fondest memories was playing golf in Maui and a critter got into our cart and stole our snacks! I will always love and carry Brenda in my heart.
Deb Rocke

Linda Tanner Posted at 05:42pm

Brenda, you will be in our hearts forever. You fought a hard fight and your life ended as you continued to fight. We will always remember you and love you. You are a gentle spirit and loved by many. Take care and God bless. Our love our friend...Linda and Ann

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